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Better masturbation?

Everyone likes different things. Here are variations and tips. Discover together which ones you both like. Want to check the basics? Have a look at How does masturbation work.

Masturbating a man

You can try out different techniques to give a hand job. Stimulate the whole penis and pay extra attention to the head of the penis.

The man sits on the edge of the bed. You kneel on the floor, between his legs. Move your hands up and down his penis and the head of his penis. In between, hold his penis with one hand while you rub gently across the head of his penis with the palm of your other hand.

You see a woman and a man here, but of course 2 men could do this as well.

More? Get the man to sit on a sofa or chair. Ask him to guide your hands and to show you what he likes.

The man stands. You kneel in front of him. Slide one of your hands up from the base of his penis until it is covering the head of his penis. Then let go and do the same with your other hand. Just slide your hands up one after the other.

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

More? Use a lubricant for a smoother motion. Or alternate masturbation with fellatio.

Masturbation and more

You can combine masturbating with touching other sensitive spots. Keep eye contact, so you notice your partner’s reactions.

Kneel between the man's legs. Stroke his chest, nipples and belly, gradually moving down towards his penis. Or touch those spots while you are masturbating him.

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

More? Play with his balls as you rub his penis. Stroking, tugging gently, grasping, licking or sucking: it's all possible. Press your thumb on his perineum at the same time. That is the area between the scrotum and the anus.

You lie on the bed. The man kneels down next to you. As you masturbate him, use your other hand to touch different sensitive spots, like the inside of his thighs or his balls.

You see a woman and a man here, but of course 2 men could do this as well.

More? Stroke your clitoris and vagina as you masturbate him. Or let the man touch your breasts and vagina.

Slightly different

You can masturbate in different positions. The better you know each other’s bodies, the more you can try out.

You take a shower together. Perfect if you want to make sure his penis is clean. Stand behind him and hold his penis in one hand. Move your hand up and down his penis and its head.

You see a woman and a man here, but of course 2 men could do this as well.

More? Press up against him, or rub his back with your breasts. Stroke his belly, back and bottom. Surprise him!

You face each other and touch each other. Perfect if you’re not in bed, as foreplay or as a way of stretching your legs in between different positions.

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

More? You can reach each other's buttocks and back too - make use of that!

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