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Fellatio

Stimulating the penis with your tongue and mouth is called fellatio. There are different ways of doing this. Each man has his personal preference.

How does fellatio work?

Performing fellatio on a man means you lick his penis and the head of his penis. Or you let him slip his penis into your mouth. Fellatio can give a man an orgasm.

Performing fellatio on a man means you lick his penis and the head of his penis. Or you let him slip his penis into your mouth. Fellatio can give a man an orgasm.

How do you give a blow job?

  • First, wet your lips with your tongue. Make sure you don't have a dry mouth, and use plenty of saliva for lubrication.
  • You can lick the penis and its head, or you take the penis in your mouth. If you lick the penis, you can lick the whole penis or just the head.
  • Don't use your teeth when you give a blow job!
  • Make either long or short strokes. If you take the penis in your mouth, you can suck gently or more forcefully, or move up and down.
  • A little bit faster, or a bit slower. Hold the penis with one hand. That way you can decide how deep it goes into your mouth.
  • Does the idea of fellatio put you off? Obviously, you don't have to do it if you don't want to.

Tips for performing fellatio

  1. Take a shower together - then you’ll both feel nice and clean.
  2. Be gentle with his penis and balls. Watch carefully for his reaction, to check if you’re doing it too energetically or too fast.
  3. Ask your boyfriend what turns him on. That’s a good way to get to know him, and to give him a great time.
  4. If his penis is going too deep into your mouth or your jaw starts to ache, use your hands to gain more control. If that doesn't help, stop doing it and carry on with something else; a hand job perhaps.
  5. Does it make you feel like you want to gag, and is that putting you off? Possibly, you don't want to carry on at all. That can happen too. Your partner could masturbate himself if he insists on carrying on.
  6. Ask him to let you know when he's almost coming.
  7. Don't let any semen get into your mouth. You could risk an HIV infection. Or use a condom, perhaps one with a nice flavour.
  8. If he does come in your mouth, spit the semen out. You could let him come on your breasts, belly or in your hands.
  9. Did one of you, or both of you, not enjoy fellatio? Whatever you do, don't blame one another for this. Take your time to find out how you can both enjoy fellatio.
  10. Pay attention to his body language. Is he moaning with pleasure, wriggling about, getting an erection? Then you're probably doing it well!

Different positions

There are different positions for giving a blow job. The better you know each other’s bodies, the more you can try out.

Blow job kneeling

When giving a blow job, your neck will be more comfortable if he stands and you kneel down. You'll have greater freedom of movement and you can touch his other sensitive spots while you’re doing it. He stands. You kneel in front of him. Stimulate his penis with your tongue, lips and the inside of your mouth. Pay extra attention to his penis head and frenulum.

More? Use your hands at the same time. Hold or stroke his penis while licking and sucking it. Massage his perineum (the area between the scrotum and the anus) and gently play with his balls.

Even more? He moves his pelvis backwards and forwards. That way he can control the tempo of the blow job and how deep his penis goes into your mouth. Let him know what you like doing!

What else? If his penis is going too deep into your mouth or your jaw starts to ache, use your hands to gain more control. Or stop doing it and carry on with something else; masturbation perhaps.

A blow job lying down

You lie down beside each other. You stimulate his penis, including the head, by licking and sucking. He strokes your buttocks, belly and back.

More? This is a good position for deep throat. The easiest way to let a penis go deep into your throat, is when it's upside down. Take his whole penis in your mouth and throat. It might make you gag. Take a few deep breaths. If that doesn't help, stop and carry on with something else, a hand job perhaps.

If you stimulate each other orally at the same time that is called the ‘69 position’.

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

A blow job sitting down

You sit on the edge of the bed or a chair. He stands in front of you. Lick his balls first. Slowly move your tongue up to the base of his penis. End up at his frenulum and the head of his penis. Close your lips around the ridge of the penis head.

More? Kiss or lick his belly or nipples before you start the blow job.

You see a woman and a man here, but of course 2 men could do this as well.

Is semen yucky?

Every man’s semen tastes different. When a man eats sugary fruit and vegetables, his semen tastes sweeter. When he smokes and drinks coffee and alcohol, his semen tastes bitter and sour.