How does fingering work?
Fingering means touching the clitoris and vagina with your fingers. When a woman does this to herself, it's called masturbating. Fingering gets you aroused. That's a way to make a woman come.
How do you do it?
- Make sure your nails are not too long.
- Wet your fingers with some vaginal fluid, saliva or lubricant.
- Stroke on or around the clitoris with your fingers.
- A little bit faster, or a bit slower.
- Pressing harder, or more gently.
What does your girlfriend like?
Women all like different things, and that can change each time. Just ask. You can also ask her to take your hand and guide you. Then you can feel exactly where she exerts pressure. Or ask her to show you how she fingers herself. Be aware of her body language. How does she react to your fingers? Is her vagina getting wet? Is she sighing or moaning with pleasure? Is her body writhing? Then you're doing fine! Listen to her breathing: is it speeding up? That is also a sign she is getting turned on.
Good places to finger
- The outer and inner labia.
- Around the clitoris. On either side, or use two fingers to do both.
- The clitoris itself. Be gentle: this is a sensitive spot. It can be good to touch it, but sometimes it is too sensitive, which means it’s not enjoyable. If the clitoris is oversensitive, just touch the area directly around it, or try licking it to see if she likes that.
- The vaginal opening.
Ready?
The clitoris returns to its normal size shortly after an orgasm. It is once again sensitive to new stimulation. That's why a woman can have multiple orgasms.
Ready for more?
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Playing with yourself
You can have sex by yourself. Lots of people masturbate, including people in a relationship. Read how to finger and to masturbate on sense.info.
Female orgasm
When a woman is aroused, she can come. Coming is another way of saying that you have an orgasm. How does a woman come? Read more about coming here.
Male orgasm
When a man is sexually aroused, he can have an orgasm. Read more about the male orgasm here. You’ll also find some tips on delaying the orgasm.
Better fingering?
Everyone likes different things. Look at the positions here and read handy tips about fingering. Discover what you both like and learn to finger better.
How does masturbation work?
Masturbating is rubbing your hand up and down your penis and the head of your penis. Masturbating is a turn on. How do you do it?
Better masturbation?
Everyone likes different things. Look at the positions here and read handy tips on masturbating. Discover what you both like and learn to masturbate better.
How does cunnilingus work?
Cunnilingus may give a woman an orgasm. How do you do that - cunnilingus? And how do you find out what you both like?
Better cunnilingus?
Have a look at the positions and read handy tips on cunnilingus. Discover what you both like, and learn to do it better.
Fellatio
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How does penetrative sex work?
Penetrative sex means an erect penis goes into the vagina. How does it work? We give you handy tips on penetrative sex.
Better penetrative sex?
Everyone likes different things. Look at the positions and read handy tips about penetrative sex. Discover what you both like and learn to do it better.
How does anal sex work?
Anal sex is when fingers, or a penis, go in the anus. Not everyone has anal sex. If you think you'd like it, try it out.
Get better at anal sex?
Everyone likes different things. Have a look at the positions here and read handy tips on anal sex. Discover what you both like, and learn to do it better.
How does gay sex work?
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Better gay sex?
All men like doing different things. Have a look at various positions and read the tips. Discover what you both like and have better gay sex.
How does lesbian sex work?
2 women can have all kinds of sex: kissing, caressing, fingering, cunnilingus. And use dildos or vibrators for penetration. This is how lesbian sex works.
Better lesbian sex?
All women like different things. Have a look at the positions here and read handy tips. Discover what you both like, and have better lesbian sex.
How do you spice up your sex life?
When you've been together for a while, sex is less exciting. Do you want to spice it up a bit? Make sure you have variety! Read tips on how to do that here.
Experimenting
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