Experimenting
Do you like sex and want to experiment with it. Look at these options.
Sex in an exciting place
Sex in a public place can be very exciting. In an alleyway, in the woods, in a car park, in the car... Perhaps the idea of getting caught in the act turns you on. Make sure no one can see you, because the police could give you a fine.
Sex toys and role play clothes
You can buy lots of sex toys in a sex shop, or order online. Dildos, vibrators and strap-on dildos. You can also buy role-play clothes. So you can perhaps play a doctor or a policeman. Go to a sex shop together, or visit a web shop, and have a good look around. Choose something you’d both like to try out.
BDSM and SM
Experimenting with SM and BDSM can be a real turn-on. SM is sexual role-play where both of you get aroused from pain. Maybe during sex you both get turned on by spanking or pinching. Experimenting with power games can also be exciting. That’s called BDSM. In a BDSM game, one of you gets the other one to do things that excite them. It might include blindfolding or tying someone up with a rope. If you want to experiment with SM and BDSM, agree first on how you’re going to do that. Talk about what you do want and what you don’t want. And decide what your ‘stop’ word will be.
Threesome
A threesome means 3 people have sex together at the same time. All combinations are possible. It is often 1 man and 2 women. But it could be 1 woman and 2 men. Or 3 men, or 3 women. Would you like to experience this sometime? It might be difficult to find people who want it too. The internet can be useful. There is a higher risk of contracting STIs, so make sure you have safe sex.
3 tips
- Only do the things that you both like doing.
- Don't drink or take drugs while experimenting. That makes it harder to make it clear what you want.
- Make sure you have safe sex.