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How does fingering work?

How does fingering work?

Fingering means touching the clitoris and vagina with your fingers. When a woman does this to herself, it's called masturbating. Fingering gets you aroused. That's a way to make a woman come.

How do you do it?

  • Make sure your nails are not too long.
  • Wet your fingers with some vaginal fluid, saliva or lubricant.
  • Stroke on or around the clitoris with your fingers.
  • A little bit faster, or a bit slower.
  • Pressing harder, or more gently.

What does your girlfriend like?

Women all like different things, and that can change each time. Just ask. You can also ask her to take your hand and guide you. Then you can feel exactly where she exerts pressure. Or ask her to show you how she fingers herself. Be aware of her body language. How does she react to your fingers? Is her vagina getting wet? Is she sighing or moaning with pleasure? Is her body writhing? Then you're doing fine! Listen to her breathing: is it speeding up? That is also a sign she is getting turned on.

Good places to finger

  • The outer and inner labia.
  • Around the clitoris. On either side, or use two fingers to do both.
  • The clitoris itself. Be gentle: this is a sensitive spot. It can be good to touch it, but sometimes it is too sensitive, which means it’s not enjoyable. If the clitoris is oversensitive, just touch the area directly around it, or try licking it to see if she likes that.
  • The vaginal opening.

Ready?

The clitoris returns to its normal size shortly after an orgasm. It is once again sensitive to new stimulation. That's why a woman can have multiple orgasms.

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