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Everyone likes different things. Here are some variations and tips. Discover together which ones you both like. Want to check the basics? Have a look at How does anal sex work.

Anal fingering/rimming

De anus is een gevoelig plekje. Je kunt het stimuleren met je vingers of tong. Bij jongens kun je via de anus ook de prostaat masseren. 

The anus is a sensitive spot. You can stimulate it with your fingers or tongue. You can massage a man’s prostate via the anus.

The woman lies on her back. Touch the anus and the surrounding area. Moisten your finger with lubricant and go in gently, using one finger. Have eye contact and keep checking if she's enjoying it.  

You see a woman and a man here, but of course 2 men or 2 women could do this too.

More? Stroke her clitoris and vagina with your other hand. Remember: never put the same finger in her anus and then in her vagina. This is how bacteria get into the vagina, which can lead to infections.

The woman is on her hands and knees. Stroke her anus or stick your finger in it. This position allows you to go in deeper. Stroke her buttocks, gently or more firmly.

The woman is on her hands and knees. Stroke her anus or stick your finger in it. This position allows you to go in deeper. Stroke her buttocks, gently or more firmly.

You see 2 women here, but of course a man and a woman or 2 men could do this too.

More? In this position, you can alternate fingering with licking. Lick her anus and the surrounding area. You can stick your tongue in as well. Anal licking is called ‘rimming’ or ‘anilingus’.

The man lies on his back. You lie on your belly, between his legs. Lick his balls, the perineum and his anus. It’s easier to get to them if he bends his legs. 
 

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

More? Moisten your finger with lubricant. Carefully put your finger in his anus and massage his prostate. If this makes you feel uneasy, have a shower first. Then you'll both feel nice and fresh.

Anal sex

Start with anal fingering or rimming. Build up anal sex gradually and always use enough lubricant.

One man lies on his back. The other one squats on top of him and supports himself on his partner’s chest. The man on top decides the tempo and the depth of penetration in his anus. 

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

More? The man on top could also squat with his back to his partner. This means there is no more eye contact. The penis goes into the anus at a different angle. See what you enjoy!

This position is sometimes called ‘doggy style’. The woman is on her hands and knees. The man is on his knees behind her, in between her legs. He can spread her buttocks and insert his penis in her anus. You both have control over the movement and the tempo.

You see a woman and a man here, but of course 2 men could do this as well.

More? The woman can finger herself during anal sex.

One man lies on his back. He lifts his legs up and rests them on his partner's shoulders. The penis can thrust deep into the anus and it feels bigger in this position. This can be painful with a large penis. Let each other know what turns you on!

You see 2 men here, but of course a man and a woman could do this too.

More? Alternate fast thrusts with a slow circular motion.

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