Watching porn
It's easy to watch sex on the internet. If you're curious about how other people do ‘it’, you've probably had a look at some pornographic photos or videos. A lot of people use porn to get themselves turned on and to feed their fantasies.
Sex photos and videos
Sex photos or videos that turn you on are called porn. There is a difference between soft porn and hard porn. Soft porn images are erotic, but leave more to the imagination. A man and woman kissing for instance, or a woman in sexy lingerie.
Hard porn shows explicit sexual acts. For example, a naked woman with her legs spread wide. Or a close-up of a man and woman having sex.
Porn is not the real thing
Watching porn, you often see things you haven't experienced in your own life: sex with multiple partners, sex with a stranger or blindfold sex. Anything’s possible with porn. But always remember that sex in porn films is not like sex in real life. It's just a story that lets you feed your fantasies. Don't expect it to be like that when you have sex yourself. By the way, the actors in porn films are more muscular and have much bigger penises than most boys and men. And the actresses are much slimmer and have much larger breasts than most girls and women; they have often had their breasts enlarged. And in reality, your girlfriend doesn't moan quite so loudly.
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Remember this:
- Is porn wrong? Not at all, as long as you don't expect it to be the same in real life.
- Keep in mind that online porn is often anti-female. You can fantasise whatever you like, but there is a big difference between fantasy and reality.
- Watching porn can become an addiction. Do you feel like watching porn more and more often, and increasingly extreme forms of it? Then it's time to stop.
10 facts about porn
Does porn turn you on? Enjoy it! But don't forget: porn is fantasy sex. And that is different to real-life sex.
1. Porn is not the real thing
Porn is not real sex. The people you see on-screen are actors. When actors moan and pant, they are acting. They act as if they're enjoying themselves. Keeping an erection an hour long is unrealistic – you’re being tricked by the actor.
2. Normal sex is better
Rules for sex: keep it simple. Leave all those complicated positions to the actors. In reality, they're not that great. So just do what you and your partner enjoy doing.
3. Porn actors look better
Don't let this make you feel insecure: women and men in porn films are fake. So stop worrying that your penis is not as big as the one in the porn film. The actors have tricks to make their penises extra-long. Female porn actors do all kinds of things to make their bodies sexier: silicone implants, Botox lips, labia correction and bleached anuses. The actors often look better because of the way the camera films them.
4. Porn sex is not safe
In porn films, they don’t use condoms. Of course, you always use a condom in real life. Otherwise you risk getting pregnant or catching an STI.
5. Don’t rush to imitate
If you want to try out a porn fantasy, discuss it first with your partner. Only do it when you’ve known each other for a while, and when you’re both in the mood for it.
6. Men enjoy it more
In porn films, you often see the man penetrating a woman for hours, having his penis licked and sucked, and then ejaculating spectacularly and intensely. In reality, women want to enjoy sex as well. If you want to make sure you give your girlfriend a good time, ask her what she likes doing and go on a journey of discovery together.
7. Women need time
In a porn film, the actor soon has his penis in the woman, often within 5 minutes. In real life, it takes a bit longer before a woman is turned on enough, is moist enough and is in the mood for it. So take your time. Did you know that lots of men also don't get turned on immediately?
8. Porn has nothing to do with love
Porn films are about sex, often with strangers. In real life, you have the best sex with your partner. And love makes the sex even better. For some people, sex is so intimate and special they only want to share it with someone they care for too.
9. You can also say NO!
The man decides what's going to happen in porn. The woman agrees to everything. In real life, you can always say no to something you don't want. It might not be easy to do, but remember: your partner ought to respect your boundaries.
10. Anal sex is not a must
Anal sex is not a must, even though it looks like that in porn. Some people like it, others don’t. If you want to have anal sex, always take your time putting your penis into the anus. Use plenty of lubricant and a condom. Never go straight from anal to vaginal penetration. There are bacteria in the anus that can cause an infection in the vagina.