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Webcam sex

Not only can you watch sex on the internet, you can take part as well. By using your webcam for example, or by having erotic conversations in a chat session. Read here who you can do that with and how you keep it fun and stay safe.

Who to do it with

You can have online sex within a relationship. The webcam gives it an extra dimension. Online sex with a stranger can be exciting too. Experimenting together by taking off your clothes or exchanging fantasies. But be careful: you never know for sure who you’re dealing with. It could also be an adult man pretending to be a boy or girl of your age. That’s when online sex is no longer fun and exciting, and turns into an unpleasant experience. If you don't want to have to worry about groomers, Romeo pimps or stalkers, then pay attention to these tips:

This is how to keep it safe

Webcam sex can be fun and exciting, when you know how to keep it safe.

  • Make sure you know who the other person is. Play it safe by only having webcam sex with someone you know in real life. If you chat with a stranger and think you really like them, arrange to meet up in real life before you have webcam sex.
  • Make sure you agree on whether or not the images can be recorded.
  • If you let them video it, don’t ever agree to the images being shared with others. That means not putting them on the internet either.
  • To be on the safe side, make sure your face is not in the picture and there is nothing else in the picture that can be traced back to you, for instance things in your room. That way, you won’t be recognisable if the video is shared later on.
  • Did you have webcam sex with a stranger and now you want to meet up in real life? Have a look at the tips for arranging to meet up.

Risks of online sex

  • Fakers: people who use fake photos or fake videos. These are people who pretend to be someone else. If you put your webcam on, the video you see is of someone the faker is pretending to be. They might be older men pretending to be someone your own age.
  • Fake model scouts: people who pretend to be model scouts and lure you in with amazing promises. For the opportunity of a photo shoot, you’ll have to undress in front of the webcam...
  • Stalkers: predators you don't want to have sex with. If you've given away too much online (like your surname and where you live), they know where to find you and they won't leave you alone.
  • Players: insincere womanisers who are only out for sex. They gain your trust first by giving you all kinds of compliments. Once you give in, they don't bother with you anymore. They lose interest and you feel used.
  • Groomers or Romeo pimps: pimps who try to control you by making sure you fall in love with them. Groomers make frequent use of the internet.