Where do you find others?
Your first contact with other gay, lesbian, or bisexual people is often a terrific moment: you realise you're not alone! It's good to talk about it, especially if you're in doubt. You get advice and support.
This is the way to meet other people (3 tips)
It can be nerve-racking to finally meet other people who feel the same as you do. It helps if you can get someone to go along with you, perhaps someone who is also going there for the first time. There are several places where you can meet other gay, lesbian and bisexual people.
- The internet is a good place to start.
- Go to a party or a café for gay, lesbian and bisexual people. Check on the internet for addresses. PANN parties (straight-friendly gay parties) are popular among young people in the Netherlands.
- Participate in activities for gay and lesbian people. Call or email the Gay & Lesbian Switchboard for activities in your area.
Read tips about safe and successful dating
Who do you fancy?
Am I gay, lesbian, straight, or bisexual? The answer isn't always that simple. That's because your sexual preference is not always 100% clear.
When you find out
Not everyone is happy to find out they are gay, lesbian or bisexual. It can be very confusing. What can you do if you find out that’s who you are?
Coming out
Coming out means telling people you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. Who do you tell and do you always have to tell someone? When is the best time to do it?
In love. What next?
Hoe weet je of degene op wie je verliefd bent op jou valt? Het is lastiger als je homo, lesbisch of bi bent. Zeker als je hier zelf niet open over bent.
Are you looking for help?
If something is bothering you, talking about it can be a relief. You can do that with someone you know, with a social worker or anonymously at Sense.info.
Sex
How do you make love when you're gay, lesbian or bisexual? It starts the same as it does with heterosexual sex. What is different? Read about it here.