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Pain during sex – men

Sometimes men suffer from pain during sex. Often this has a physical cause. Don't suffer in silence. Make an appointment at your doctor’s practice, or at a Sense clinic. Sex shouldn't be painful.

Pain in your penis

  • You have an STI. Get yourself tested at your doctor’s practice or contact a Sense clinic near you.
  • The foreskin gets too tight on your penis when you have an erection.
  • The frenulum is too short. If it’s too short, it may be difficult for the head of the penis to slide out of the foreskin properly.
  • A lot of masturbation or sex irritates the head of your penis. Or your girlfriend’s vagina is not lubricated enough. Slow down a bit. If you are worried about it, go to your doctor.
  • The head of your penis is oversensitive. When the head of the penis is touched immediately or for too long, it might be painful. It sometimes helps to keep the foreskin on during foreplay. Let your partner know what  feels good for you.
  • It takes too long to have an orgasm and your penis is stiff for too long. We call this testicular congestion or ‘blue balls’. Try to reach orgasm quicker.
  • Penetrating your partner anally, without using a lubricant, can be painful. If it hurts, pull your penis out slowly. If you do this too fast, it can be extra painful.

Tight foreskin

Men sometimes have pain during sex if their foreskin is too tight. When the penis enters the vagina, mouth or anus, the foreskin gets pushed back over the head of the penis. Just like during masturbation. If the foreskin is too tight, it is stretched during sex, possibly leading to small tears. This can hurt so much it's difficult to keep your penis erect. Go to your doctor, who can prescribe you a cream or explain an exercise to widen the foreskin.

Short frenulum

Men sometimes have pain during sex if their foreskin is too tight. When the penis enters the vagina, mouth or anus, the foreskin gets pushed back over the head of the penis. Just like during masturbation. If the foreskin is too tight, it is stretched during sex, possibly leading to small tears. This can hurt so much it's difficult to keep your penis erect. Go to your doctor, who can prescribe you a cream or explain an exercise to widen the foreskin.