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How does cunnilingus work?

How does cunnilingus work?

Cunnilingus may give a woman an orgasm. You use your tongue, especially on and around the clitoris. Other words for this are - going down on (her), licking and sucking, or oral sex.

How do you do it?

  • Lick around or on her clitoris.
  • Lick her labia or her vaginal opening.
  • A little bit faster, or a bit slower.
  • Pressing harder, or more gently.

What does your girlfriend like?

Try out something new with your tongue, and keep an eye on her body language. Is she getting wet? Is she moaning with pleasure? Then you're probably doing it well! Ask your girlfriend what she likes. That's the way to get to know her, and to make it really enjoyable for her.

Did you enjoy it?

Take a shower together before you start. Then you'll both feel nice and fresh. And you can start getting her aroused in the shower. If you can’t keep it up for long, or your jaw aches, stop with cunnilingus or choose another position. You can alternate going down on her with something else, like fingering.
Does the idea of it put you off? Obviously, you don't have to go down on her if you don’t want to.

No orgasm

Lots of women have an orgasm when they are licked, but not all women. Your girlfriend might really enjoy cunnilingus, even though she doesn't have an orgasm.

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